Have you ever had one of those days? You know, the kind where you wish you could just crawl back into bed where it’s warm and cozy, pull the covers over your head and go back to sleep?
What about the days where you get hit with a circumstance that metaphorically brings you to your knees?
What happens when days like that start to pile up? Come back to back pushing you dangerously close to your “lose your shit” threshold?
Yeah, I’ve been there.
As a matter of fact, that’s the kind of week I’ve had.
It started with my “I’m 18 and can do what I want” senior who is two weeks from graduation and it seemed like it just wouldn’t end. I was up to my neck in bottled up momma freak out biting my tongue to save the peace while still being firm in where I stood. She’s so much like her mother it’s not even funny. Stubborn. Strong Willed. Hot headed… and mean as a rattlesnake when she feels like she’s being challenged.
Navigating potentially volatile situations without losing ground, giving in or compromising your expectations, with this one, is like jumping around in a minefield blindfolded.
I was on a four day stretch of standing my ground after taking car privileges for breaking curfew and showing the battle scars to prove it. Emotionally I was worn down but still holding fast to my principles. My neck was in knots as a physical permientation of the bottled up stress fought to surface and it was time to head into the office.
Honestly, I was looking forward to the escape. I got into my car, took a deep breath and pulled out of the drive feeling like the air was thinner… cleaner as got farther from my house approaching the red light just blocks away.
In that moment… my car decided to die!
It almost didn’t register as I blinked at the dash. I put the car in park and cranked the ignition just to hear an awful “I’m not gunna start” racket coming from under the hood.
Now here’s where the story gets interesting….
My first thought were profinities in a context that I don’t care to memorialize. Hell, who am I kidding… they were more than thoughts. Those words came out of my mouth as fluidly as Ralphie Parker’s did in A Christmas Story after being bullied one too many times.
I heard my mother’s voice. Funny how when shit hits the fan it’s the voice of your greatest influencer that comes to mind… but more on that another day.
As if my mother was sitting in my backseat I heard the cliche “God won’t give you more than you can handle” and in that moment I had a choice.
I could sit there feeling sorry for myself. Pissed at the world. Saying things like “Fuck my life” and “Why does all the bad shit happen to me.”
OR… I could take that moment and be grateful.
Yeah… let that sink in.
I had a choice… I could use my words and thoughts to keep me in overwhelm OR I could take the moment to be grateful.
There were crocodile tears rolling down my cheeks as I surrendered to gratitude.
“Lord, Thank you for believing in me soooo much that you’ve given me these things to show me just how really strong I am.”
Yep.. I said that. Audibly! Well… as audibly as it could be through snot nosed sobs.
For me the choice was easy… but get, I’ve been doing this a LONG time. It wasn’t always easy to see my own patterns. Not at first. But it IS possible. How do I know? Because I’m living proof that the system works.
Life is a fucking mess! It is for everyone. We all have things that happen to us… and everyone’s circumstances are different but the one thing we all have in common is our ability to choose.
We can choose how we feel in any given moment with the right tools and practice. In doing so we become the keeper of our personal strength.
I don’t know about you, but I’m stubborn. Strong willed & mean as a rattlesnake when I feel challenged and It’ll be a cold day in hell when I let anyone control me. But get, that’s exactly what happens when we react without thought. It only takes seconds to claim your power and yet we give it away so freely… unknowingly.
Now I’m not going to sit here and tell you that in those moments I don’t make a choice to lose my shit regardless of what the right thing to do is. That would be a total lie but in those times, I’m fully aware that my reaction is mine and that I chose to be that way… which means whatever consequence comes from my temper tantrum… well it’s my own damn fault because I chose it.
So let me leave you with this thought for today…
Victor Frankle, founder of logotherapy, says:
“In the moment between external circumstance and response lies our personal power.”
If we allow situations to control our reaction we are handing over that power to whoever and whatever is instigating it.
Really think about that. In the last 30 days, who or what have you given your personal power to?
What is something you can do to change the way you respond moving forward?
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Wanna know what got me through the week?
My MessOlogy Mantra!!
“I am stronger than my circumstances!”
I know how powerful the subconscious brain is and well let’s be honest… I like to take the easy route. So, I made myself a wallpaper for my cell phone lock screen so that everytime I open it, I see the belief I wanted to imprint.
Did you know that the average person looks at their phone 300 times a day!?! Yeah, I’m a nerd. I looked that shit up and thought hey!! I’m going to use that to my advantage.
It’s literally saved on my phone so it’s the first thing I see when I go to unlock it and that’s where it will stay until this weeks mess has been properly mastered!
If you would like to have a copy for your phone along with access to the wallpapers I personally use on my phone when I need a mindset boost click the button below!
PS… They’re absolutely FREE and I add to the collection almost weekly!