Life is a shitstorm.
Things happen everyday that push us further and further away from the goals we had for our life until one day you wake up and think “how did I get here?”
What feels like eons ago my life looked pretty different.
I was a working mom putting in more hours than my body could handle and barely enough money to make ends meet.
I always had more month than I had money.
Yet, everyday I came home to help with homework, do the laundry, make dinner, wash the dishes, tidy the house, pay what bills I could, lay out clothes for the next day and fall into bed.
Only to wake up to two picky daughters who didn’t want to wear what was laid out the night before, rush around getting myself ready while looking for the one sock that’s always missing, make breakfast & lunches and put the kids on the bus… barely.
I left the house feeling like a hot mess. Every. Single. Day.
Not only that, but I looked around at other women I knew who seemingly had all their shit together and compared my life to theirs which kept me in a perpetual loop of negative thoughts like:
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why can’t I be better organized.”
“Am I a bad mom?”
“There’s gotta be something wrong with me.”
I was miserable, stressed out and overwhelmed to say the least but what I didn’t realize was that in the madness there were things I was doing really well like raising my daughters to be independent, strong human beings.
Not only was I blind to that but I also couldn’t see the countless other things that made up MY superpower which is helping other women see the strengths they have in themselves so they can go out and crush their goals.
But it didn’t happen overnight. I chose to become a world class student of the greatest minds I could find devoting every ounce of energy I had into learning what it was that made them profoundly grounded in who they were.
I wanted to know what made these individuals “bulletproof” despite what life threw at them.
And here’s what I learned:
The 4 Ultimate Truths In Life
Gratitude has a way of putting things into focus. When you’re focused on what you’re grateful for you’re more resilient. You’re relationships are stronger and you’re a more healthy human being.
And… The more you practice it, there’s less room for the negative bullshit that keeps you stuck.
But don’t take my word for it. Here’s a post from Psychology Today outlining just seven of the countless benefits.
Listen, you’ve only got one life and it’s up to you to make the most of it. If I’ve learned anything it’s that your circumstances have zero to do with your happiness and… If you don’t get off your butt and go after what it is that you want, you’ll stay right where you are.
Simple but not easy, right? I mean… what if you don’t know what you want?
Well, it’s been my experience that in order to know what you want in life you first need to define who you are, but that’s not usually enough. You need a rock solid foundation to build on. Which includes clarity, focus & self love.
It’s hard to know where you want to go, if you don’t know where you’re starting.
If you want help, check out this mini course on Clarity. It’s being offered right now absolutely free to my VIP All Access group as part of the MessOlogy Project.
Asking for something can be a scary thing. I get it… but what are we so afraid of?
For most people it’s the fear of rejection. When we hear the word “NO” it’s as if we’re being personally judged. It’s a vulnerable place to be and uncomfortable to say the least but how do we move past it?
Well, one of the greats I meticulously studied is Brendon Burchard author of a favorite book called “The Charge” which is about how to feel more alive, productive & fulfilled in a chaotic life. (There’s no affiliate commission here… I’m just a huge fan girl!)
Check out what he has to say about the Rejection Myth and tell me if it doesn’t change how you see things!
If you’ve ever learned how to drive a car, or cook your favorite meal, then you know that achieving success requires that you go beyond simply reading about in in a post or book.
It’s easy enough to read through a bunch of self-help books or pin inspirational B.S. about getting stuff done, but the fact is that all the resources in the world can only get you so far.
What good does it do you to simply know of an effective technique if you never try it out?!
Reading is a great first step to free yourself of the constant stress and overwhelm that comes from life’s messes but real change only happens if you take action. If you keep reading and reading and never do anything with what you’ve learned, it’s just procrastination. Mental maturbation, really. You get a temporary hit of “yes, I can do this” but when shit hits the fan you’re right back where you started.
But get… You don’t have to execute what you’ve learned perfectly.
Imperfect action is STILL action!
So if you want to get off the treadmill and start going somewhere, it’s time to get moving.